The Choice Between Healing Through Forgiveness or Living in Bitterness

Forgiveness is supposed to be a conscious choice to lift the past off your shoulders, not simply organize it on a shelf somewhere. When you forgive someone, you are deciding not to remind that person of that wrong or not to use the past mistake against that person in the future.

If you keep bringing that person back to the past or reminding them of whenever you feel If you persist in getting that individual back to past events or continually reminding them whenever you experience feelings of distress regarding a particular matter, this behavior cannot be characterized as forgiveness; instead, you are simply reopening the same wounds and opting to suppress resentment within yourself and choosing to bury resentment deep inside you.

Forgiveness constitutes a dedication to alleviating the emotional burdens borne by both the one and the other individual involved.

It is imperative to acknowledge that forgiveness does not denote an absence of memory; instead, it represents a deliberate choice to abstain from allowing that moment to control or dictate one's relationship with the other individual.

Rebuilding trust is crucial for progress, as revisiting the past greatly obstructs healing. When building a relationship with someone, even the past matters. If you forgive someone and move forward, leave the past behind. Leaving it behind creates an opportunity for renewal, understanding, and reconciliation moving forward.